Sooooo its been a while!
IGCSE is coming up and I've been studying like hell. *Excuses* I had a writer block for several weeks where i just have no idea what to write.*Yes, Excuses* I had tons of project and homework to do. *More Excuses* Sorry :)
But today's post is extremely special because my dear friend who-wont-be-named requested it. She is going trough a terrible breakup and as you guys probably can tell, us women is always the one who hurt more. I do not have a boyfriend at the moment, and not looking for one right now. I just hate it when most of the guys in my age think that girls are disposable and can be easily replaced. They often toy around with our feeling and the words they said..... sometimes makes our heart aches. They take us for granted and they have a very little comprehension of what commitment really is.
I do not say that all the guys are like that, but based on my experience, MOST of the guys are like that.
I also think that us women can do better off without a jerk (Read: boyfriend) and we can do just fine without them. In my opinion, the girl who-wont-be-named is really attractive, charming and independent. She has an incredibly nice personality and i just think that her life will just be amazing without this douche that hurt her.
I have a few tips that might be helpful if you're struggling with a broken heart or a terrible breakup.
Go trough it, not around it
Stand in the crack and feel the pain. I know it hurts but you have to get trough the broken heart, not avoid it. If you avoid the feeling, you might bump to it in the future and hurt yourself even more. You have to grieve in order to move on. Soon the pain will lost it's strength :)
Spend quality time with friends and family
When you're in a relationship you might spend more time with your boyfie/girlfie and less time with your family and friends. After going trough a breakup and dealing with a hell of a pain, you can feel so lonely but remember your family and friends are still around!
List your strength
I know the feeling of weak and defeated by love, and that's not really nice. By listing your own strength you might realize something you don't about yourself. Your strength list doesn't need to be really huge or anything. Maybe you have that smile that will melt anyone, or the sparkle in your eyes when you laugh? include that in your list.
Help someone else
One of the most effective way of mending a broken heart is to bottled up all your feeling, and find a use for them. When you help others especially those who are struggling of the same pain as you, you forget about yourself and it can also take your mind off things you don't want to remember.
Find a new hope
Try to find something that motivates you. Motivation can come from anywhere, it could be from movies, books, picture or even a person. This will help your hope/ trust in people to grow back and believe me, the pain wont last forever.
Please understand that you cant mend a broken heart overnight. Give yourself a little bit more time, and time will heals almost anything. You might also want to give yourself a little space between you and "Him" in order to cool things down a little bit. Do not dive into sadness alone, always ask the person you trust to help you go trough it. And remember that your life must go on, with or without him.
That is it for my weekly blog post i know it is longer than my usual post but yeah... I really hope it would be beneficial for anyone and don't forget to share it if you enjoyed it :)
Brigitta gladiola
