Insecurity

I want you to look at a mirror and ask yourself :

Are you happy about how you look? and are you the person who you want to be?

If your answer is no for both questions, then you are on insecurity zone. Insecurity is when you don't feel good enough about yourself and you wish to be someone else, or you never feel grateful about anything you've given. I used to feel this way. I understand the feeling of not being pretty enough or rich enough to be accepted by society. But you know what? There are more important things to do other than trying to please people.

Other Signs of insecurity:

• Gossiping

When you talk about others, you're just being nosy, and it gives you no advantage at all. Plus, your word can hurt like knife. Once you said something, you cannot take it back. It also shows that you're not happy about yourself and deep down, you're insecure. 

• Comment 

On special occasion i meet my big family, and at least 2 of my aunt will comment on how i'm so short and chubby. I mean, it might be okay for them to say that, but it might not be okay for me. Do they think that i don't know that i'm short? And my point is, overweight people know they are overweight. Underweight people know they're underweight. There is no need to point it out on their face.

• Way too competitive

If someone act like every interaction is a competition, there's a chance that this person is insecure about themselves. They have a burning desire to make themselves feel superior because you feel inferior inside. They also cannot handle the success of others.They want people approval that they are good in a specific task, and actually, they just want to feel great. 

When you only see people's flaw, you cannot see their beauty. And i can now proudly say that i'm out of insecurity zone. I don't stand in front a mirror and taking mental notes about parts of me that i like to change. I love my self, every inch of it. I know i wasn't, i am not, and will never be perfect. Perfection is boring anyway. 

I mean, we are more than how we looks and more than a clothing size. Your inner beauty and your self-acceptance is more important than others opinion. You cannot please everyone. 

And trust me, when you feel great about your flaw, no one can use it against you. 

Thank you for reading, i hope you start to love your self for who you are. Stay awesome XOXO

"Learn to respect all kinds of people because everyone is fighting a battle of their own."

Brigitta Gladiola